I'm confused. Who's family is to see which family? Are you the step parent oe the parent? Not sure, but either way, kids should see as much of their family as possible thru the holidays. And No, I'm not sure where you are coming from. Again , I don't know which role you have with step kids. Please clarify.

I'm the step, and I just resent how it seems to be a grest imposition that a little bit of time be spent with my family as well. I don't expect the kids to spend more time with them than they're real family, but can't we just spend a few hours with them on XMas Eve? I geuss it's typical that everyone feels torn on the holidays, and there's not enough time to spend with everybody. But I'm being torn away from my traditional family time; can't there be a happy medium?

I am a childless stepmom and my husband has never spent Christmas with my family. It's been 7 years now and I doubt it will change. I don't know the last time my husband made an effort to see my family. I'm going to spend the first Christmas I've spent with them in 5 years and my husband and his son will be at home. Yeah, it's 800 miles away but it never seems fair that my family gets left out of every holiday. I understand that the parents want to spend time with their child but there is little recourse for a childless stepmom.
He shouldn't resent the time they spend with your family if your family treats them well. I think that's selfish and closed minded.