My step-son, Dakota, is having severe behavioral issues at school. He hasn't seen his mom in almost two years. Childrens Services took him away from her when he was 4 and found playing in the back of a semi that was getting ready to take off! Nobody was watching him, the mom was sleeping and the grandma was watching tv. This is not the first time that Childrens Services was called either. Anyway, his dad, my fiancee, got custody of him last year. The mom is only allowed phone visitation with him because she and two of her boyfriends gave him bad touch. He talked to her tonight and told her of his recent behavior. He started crying when she told him that she was disappointed in him, and he told her that he has been acting up because he isn't happy. After the phone call, he cried for about 2o minutes, while I held him. I told him that he would see his mom someday, but that he would probably live with his dad for a long time. I also told him that none of this was his fault. Was I wrong or right in what I said? I'm still kind of new to this, so I appreciate any advice. It just amazes me that, no mattter how horrible a mother is, a child will still cling to her! Also, how long will it take for a step-child to be totally comfortable in his new family? Thanks!
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