Step Families Support Group
Traditionally, a stepfamily is the family one acquires when a parent enters a new marriage, whether the parent was widowed or divorced. This community is focused on many of the relationships and issues that may arise within stepfamilies where you may find answers from some members and you may help other members with their questions.
It has been 12 years since my mom died and my dad remarried the next year. It was a rocky start with my stepmother making demands my brother and I be in the wedding- making inventory lists of my parent's belongings and insisting we attend events and functions as a blended family- I haven't made any progress with HER, though I have forgiven my dad and love him very much. I don't trust her and I think she poisons my dad to leave out my brother and I. Any advice from stepparents about how I could be a better step daughter?
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give her a chance...my husband desperately wanted his kids to be in our wedding...he is the one that wnats them to be involved in everything but i am the one that gets resented becasue it is always me chasing them up and making sure they are coming....if i dont he forgets and that makes me feel bad....it is hard for a step parent believe me...we will always live in the shadow of the woman that gave you life...family always compare us and how much better someone else might have done the job...we do our best...but sometimes that is not enough...cut her some slack...maybe find something you can do together just the 2 of you...try to see her as a human...not a replacement mom...in time maybe you can be friends.
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Thank you - your advice is exactly the kind I'm looking for- I don't think she likes me- I am afraid to get to know her.
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If your stepmother loves your dad, she has no reason to not like you. All you have to do is try to talk to her, and show her the respect that you show your dad and that you showed your mom. Your stepmother is not responsible for your mother's death, nor can she be considered a bad person for having fallen in love with your dad. Give her a chance to show you that she cares about you. And - give yourself a chance to care about her.
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