Step Families Support Group
Traditionally, a stepfamily is the family one acquires when a parent enters a new marriage, whether the parent was widowed or divorced. This community is focused on many of the relationships and issues that may arise within stepfamilies where you may find answers from some members and you may help other members with their questions.
I have a 12yo SS. He lives with us full time, his weekends divided between us, his mom/stepdad, and his paternal grandmother and great-grandmother who live together.
Recently his paternal grandmother remarried. While he doesn't live there yet, her husband will eventually be moving into their house. Because of this his wife took away the 'guest room' where my SS usually sleeps so that she and her husband will have space enough for the two of them.
I have no problem with this, however, their resolution to where the SS is sleeping is in the same room as his great-grandmother. They have set up a twin bed in her room just for him. When I pointed out that he's a bit old to be sharing a room with her, they looked at me like I was crazy.
I then got a call from great-grandmother saying she was very worried that SS wasn't sleeping well, waking up in the middle of the night and not going back to sleep. FYI, he sleeps like a rock at our house in his own room.
I'm concerned that this pre-teen boy is experiencing typical puberty-like things and because he's sharing a room with great-grandmother, he's terribly embarassed when it happens in the middle of the night. I'm pretty sure that no one has had the sex talk with him and I've been informed that it's not my place to do so. Especially since his mother is on the rampage of recent.
I asked his grandmother if she could have it with him. I am pretty sure she hasn't yet. His father flat out refuses out of plain and simple embarassment.
Am I wrong to think he is too old to share a room with his great-grandmother when he's there every other weekend or so? I'm not terribly close to my SS and try very hard not to interfere, but at what point do I need to point out that they really shouldn't be doing something? Do I just leave them be and let them do whatever so long as he's not being abused or neglected? His father has told me to just stay out of it when it comes to the other women in their lives (the ex, the grandmothers) because they've done things the same way since he was born. However... I feel like I can see changes happening to this boy that they're ignoring.
Should I really do anything at all?
Recently his paternal grandmother remarried. While he doesn't live there yet, her husband will eventually be moving into their house. Because of this his wife took away the 'guest room' where my SS usually sleeps so that she and her husband will have space enough for the two of them.
I have no problem with this, however, their resolution to where the SS is sleeping is in the same room as his great-grandmother. They have set up a twin bed in her room just for him. When I pointed out that he's a bit old to be sharing a room with her, they looked at me like I was crazy.
I then got a call from great-grandmother saying she was very worried that SS wasn't sleeping well, waking up in the middle of the night and not going back to sleep. FYI, he sleeps like a rock at our house in his own room.
I'm concerned that this pre-teen boy is experiencing typical puberty-like things and because he's sharing a room with great-grandmother, he's terribly embarassed when it happens in the middle of the night. I'm pretty sure that no one has had the sex talk with him and I've been informed that it's not my place to do so. Especially since his mother is on the rampage of recent.
I asked his grandmother if she could have it with him. I am pretty sure she hasn't yet. His father flat out refuses out of plain and simple embarassment.
Am I wrong to think he is too old to share a room with his great-grandmother when he's there every other weekend or so? I'm not terribly close to my SS and try very hard not to interfere, but at what point do I need to point out that they really shouldn't be doing something? Do I just leave them be and let them do whatever so long as he's not being abused or neglected? His father has told me to just stay out of it when it comes to the other women in their lives (the ex, the grandmothers) because they've done things the same way since he was born. However... I feel like I can see changes happening to this boy that they're ignoring.
Should I really do anything at all?
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Two things come to mind. XXX billions of boys grew up sleeping in a common sleeping environment for XXX years. But I agree in our day and age its not considered appropriate. Not bad just not necessary anymore.
I guess what I'm saying is he will live through it. Considering your place in the family its not worth starting a war over. That would probably harden their position anyway and you would lose.
Next I would get a age appropriate sex book and stick it under his pillow. You should be able to find them at any bookstore or of course online.
Good luck and keep us posted.