Hello everyone, I have just found this site and looked around a little and I am so glad I have found it. I wish I had thought of looking for something like this sooner. Here is my problem, sorry if it is really long. I have 2 kids and 2 step kids. Have been married 2 years, step kids are with us 50% of the time. Most everything has gone really well, except for my relationship with my step son, who is 8. He does not respect me as a person of authority, nor does he listen to me. I am a stay home mom, and 1 week into summer, I can't wait for them to go back to school!! This kid annoys me to no end, sorry for being mean, but I need to be honest here. He lies, tells dad one thing, me another, if I tell him no to something, he turns around and asks dad. He forgets/loses everything. He will turn around and walk away when I am talking. I am busy with 4 kids at home,etc, and I don't have time to follow him around all day and make sure he does what he is supposed to. Not that we ask a lot of the kids, but with 6 people in the house, I should not be the only one doing all the work (right?) So I have tried to talk to my husband about the problems I have with his son. He thinks I treat him unfairly and that I am harder on him than on the other kids. SS told his dad that I called him a liar and that I don't like him. So when dh told me this, I pointed out that I did not call him a liar, but reminded him (nicely, I thought)about the importance of honesty. Dh got mad at me, saying I was defensive and only worried about myself rather than going to ss and telling him how much I care for him. Dh and I have talks about this all the time, but the problem is, he thinks that by me saying something to him about his son's behavior, that I want him to discipline him. I don't,I just want him to be aware of what is going on and maybe talk to the kid about it so it can be worked on. He isn't here during the day, so I didn't think it was out of line for me to tell him what goes on. His son needs correcting more than the other kids, that's why I talk about him most. To dh, that is being unfair. He thinks that we should talk to all the kids together about these things, but I don't think the other kids should get in trouble or be talked to about issues they don't have. I have said I am not going to discipline him anymore, but then dh said that wouldn't solve anything and I can't just quit doing something when it is hard. But then when I do say soemthing, he gets mad at me. I feel as if no matter what I do it is going to be wrong. All of this has been going on for a long time. It is causeing stress in our relationship and I am beginning to resent his son for this. I am tired of walking on eggshells around here for fear of upsetting someone. My stress level doubles when my step son is around. Ok, I think that's it. Any suggestions? thanks.
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