I have two children. One with my wife. One, 10 year old daughter, from a previous relationship, who I had full custody of. She no longer lives with me as of August. I finaly gave in to my wife in order to save our relationship and to give my daughter a better environment. You see my wife litteraly hates my daughter. Things got worse after we had my son 20 months ago. It was not always this way, we got married young and at the time I had allready had custody of my daughter. My wife was fine with this at the time she even let her call her mommy. I admit she did most of the parenting, at least the mommy side of it. I don't know if she was doing this becuse she thought I expected it of her or if she was just playing house. Fast forward to 2 1/2 years later thats when she sterted to say things like "I'm done with her" or "I'm tired of her calling me mommy". Thats when I took on all parenting duties in order to make my wife happy and my daughters life less stress full. That did not work. Shortly after my wife told me she did not want her to call her mommy any more. Now this was a hard one since my daughter was 3 years old when my wife came into her life and she had no contact with her real mom since she was 2. My daughter knew that my wife was not her real mom, but she loved her as her own. She was the only mother that she knew. On my part I may have made a mistake by putting off telling my daughter that her so called mommy did not want to be her mommy any more, I guess I kept stalling in hopes that my wife would change her mind. That only added fule to her fire, around this time she really sterted to resent my daughter, I thought it may have hade to do with the fact that we had been trying to have a baby for about 3 years. I eventually sat my daughter down and explaned that my wife did not want her to call her mommy any more. After that the rift between them became larger and larger. It basicly got to the point that my wife treated her like a compleat outcast. She never had any thing nice to say to her the only comments she made were negitive. Thats when I suggested counselling and got the awanser that no one was going to change the way she felt toward my daughter, so my answer was no. At that time I was really concidering leaving her when all of the sudden we found out she was pregnant. Their relatinship stayed the same during the pregnancy, all I could do was try to keep peace. When my son came that is when she really got mean with her. She did not want her anyware near the baby and would get angry when I would refer to her as his sister. Now to the present I havs given up on trying to make it work between them, so I sent my daughter to live with my mom, who adores her. I made this decision for a couple reasons , to possibly save my marrage, so I could be here to raise my son and the most importent my daughter is much better off at my moms. Even though people who know us say I made the right decision I still fell like a failuer as a parent. I would apreciate some advice from some people who may know what I am going through. Pleas feel free to add me if you want to here more there is a ton I had to leave out becuse it was allredy to long. PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE. I am also new so it would be nice to make so connecyions.
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