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My STEPSON is an addict

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my stepson in 25 yrs old and he is addicted to marijuana. We have a family business and with his addiction he is running his father to the grave. Me, being the stepmother, i dont want to get caught up in the middle of it but its starting to affect my relationship. This young man insults his dad, takes money from the store, gives merchandise away to his friends and at the end of the day when his father tells him NO--he wants to fight him......I dont know what to do!! I told my husband to cut him off completely because if this continues, his son will never realize he has a problem. This is a very delicate situation and its needs special attention. Please help :(
AnneL
AnneL
Have you talked to your husband about this addiction? Does he think it's a serious problem? The first thing I would do, and have done, is tell your husband that this situation is effecting your relationship with him. This stepson is 25 years old and should NOT be taking anything from the business, he should not be speaking to his father in this manner and his Dad needs to tell him that if you are going to speak to me this way and treat me disrespectfully then don't bother coming around until you can treat me with the love and respect I deserve. I hope he's not living with you. If he is, he needs to go. It's the only way he'll learn. Your husband needs to draw
boundaries and he's clearly not doing that. I would definitely express that your relationship with him is being jeopardized by this situation. Does he want people to think that he does this too? It could ruin your business. Sad.
Thanks for responding to my post about drinking:)
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Dad need to understand that he is supporting a drug habit.
I'd suggest Alanon. A organization that helps people close to addicts. If they can't assist with drugs other than alcohol they'll have references.
Also Google "enabler".
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Orange mentioned it. Your husband is enabling your ss by allowing him to do this. As hard as it may be, the best situation would be to cut him off and out of everything until he starts treating you both with respect.
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he came to us in april and said he was going to stop. we gave him a place to stay with his wife and 2 kids. They lived with us for 6 months and he did clean up....at this point not realizing that he was picking up other habits...anyway we kicked them out and he is back to smoking full force. He even smokes with his daughter in the house (she 4yrs). I already told my husband that even if his son gets down on his knees...he cant give in this time. It will only harm him more if we save him from all that he is doing. Thank you guys for the support!! I really need to know that Im not alone :)
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Well hang in there you or Dad will not be doing this fellow any favors by taking him in. True he may get worse or may get better on his own but taking him in will only repeat his previous behavoir.

Changing the subject I have been told:

There is no physical withdrawels from Marijuana. I.e. no sweating, DT's that sort of thing.

There is a mental addiction however which can be as debiliting as physical.

I'd be interested in what you observed in his six month freedom from the drug.
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