I am very hurt at my husband because of the way he allows his ex-wife and his children to treat me. He doesn't want to see the things they are doing because he doesn't want to deal with it. He is also afraid of losing his children (which is a silly fear because she has no grounds to take them) and paying child support. Because the ex only brings it up when she doesn't get her way. I feel so hurt. His ex-wife has come over drunk and verbally abused me, and would not leave when I asked. I had to call the police. She has overstepped personal boundaries. She demanded that I have a relationship with her. She does not provide consistent and loving correction to the girls. She drinks a lot. She showed up to the girls' church christmas play drunk. She accuses me of things that she is the one actually doing. And my husband rarely thanks me for helping with the kids. He doesn't celebrate mother's day for me, he gets mad if I ask him to discipline the kids. He doesn't want to deal with anything. He tells me to "get over" things because I'm the adult and they are the children. He has never offered any sort of condolence for the way his ex-wife treats me, and then is angry when I tell him, I'm sorry, but she can't be a part of my life. I feel bad for the girls that things can't work out between us, but I need to consider my health too. I am not less important just because I am an adult. I understand that children's needs are different, and they can't process things. I'm not asking him to disregard their feelings. I encourage him to care about their feelings. I just think at the appropriate times, of course, my feelings need to be validated by him.
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