My mother in law doesn't want to consider my kids or my family, as far as she sees it, her Grandkids (my Hubs kids) are the only ones that count. She thinks she has first dibs at holidays because her Grandkids have always gone to her house and I shouldn't change that. She lives 1 1/2 hrs away and we spend the weekend once a month, my grown daughters live 8hrs away and so does their Dad,we have to see them on school breaks, my two at home want to see their sisters and their Dad. She said my girls are 18 and 20 they don't need me, and their Dad should come here to see their younger brother and sister. I am the one who moved here to marry her son. My girls and their Dad do come, we take turns, his mom said she doesn't like to drive so she has NEVER came to our house, we always go to hers. She is not handicapped and their is no medical reason she can't drive. I understand the fact that when his ex ditched him for someone else, he took the kids there almost every weekend and his mom helped him through it but I have family too and so do my kids, they are used to being together also, I'm willing to take turns but that's not good enough! I feel so guilty, his mom won't talk to us and he is very close to his mom.