My husband and I just got married 3 weeks ago and I am a new step-mom to his 5 year old son. We have him every other weekend, all school breaks, and 10 weeks of the summer. He has been a nightmare and that would be a nice way to say it. When we first moved in together he attacked my belongings such as pouring white out all over my furniture, and my computer printer, he cut my computer cord and my cell phone cord with scissors, and he also ripped all of the keys off of my laptop computer, ruining it. This was about a year ago. I discovered at that time he had been urinating all over his toys in his toybox for a long time and it was crusted all over everything and we had to throw away over half of his toys that could not be washed clean. At his mothers house she does not make him follow rules at all, and she has no consequence for disobeying he basically just runs a muck doing whatever he pleases. SO.... I have been dedicated to working with him, and correcting him when he is rude. And at times it is downright APPALLING how rude he is to people! I enrolled him in a daily summer camp for him to have interaction with other kids and everything. None of my efforts have been successful. He has been crabby and rude constantly, he demands things and talks to me like I am a slave. The other day his dad didnt have to work and saw these behaviors and was appalled. I told him that he acts like that all of time. He does whatever he wants, and just rolls his eyes at the consequence. Nothing phases this kid at all. I discovered he had once again been urinating in his toybox and I also found some poop in there as well. He just looked at me and said "Looks like we will have to go get me some new toys" I was shaking with anger, I have never been so mad in all of my life. I feel like I am at my wits end with this child, I feel like his goal is to aggravate me and push me to my limits as much as possible. We are looking into talking to a psychologist about it but I am just wondering if any new step moms or dads have had to deal with any similar situations just so I do not feel all alone in the world. Thanks!
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