My fiance has 2 children with different mothers. The mother of his youngest son has been a challenge, to say the least. Finally yesterday she admitted that she knows she has changed a lot in the last few months (she is pregnant again) and that she really wants to spend as much time as possible with her son (all of a sudden). Not 6 months ago she would call and leave horrible nasty messages on my fiance's vm, verbally abuse him, threaten us....because she felt my fiance wasn't spending enough time with his son. After much back and forth (she conveniently forgets things as it suits her) they agreed on a visitation schedule of every other weekend. There is nothing legally binding at this point, no parenting agreement or schedule that a judge has signed. At first, every other weekend was working wonderfully, then she comes at us with alleged "behavioral problems" that my fiance's son is having, and that "some counselor lady" at the hospital said that the behavioral problems are because of the visitation schedule with us. HE IS A TWO YEAR OLD. How many 2 year olds don't throw fits? They are discovering their personality and independence. In my mind, he acted like any 2 year old I have been around (I don't have children of my own). NOW she wants my fiance to only pick up his son every other weekend, but he has to bring his son back to her house every night. First because of the "behavioral problems" that have magically disappeared, and now because she wants more time with him. Is this normal? Like I said I don't have children of my own, and this woman has a 5 year old who is being raised by her mother (father deserted the Army and is nowhere to be found), my fiance's 2 year old, a 1 year old (her husband's) and is now pregnant again (hopefully the husbands). All of a sudden she developed this maternal streak, and while I am thrilled she is acting like a mother and not a shrew, it makes me wary. But to complain about the time my fiance spent with his son as being not enough, to now trying to cut that time short because of a sudden maternal interest......Am I just being paranoid? I work very hard at not getting too involved but this is killing my fiance. I have pushed him to file paperwork to make the visitation more legal, but he keeps dragging his feet and to be honest I am tired of nagging him about something I can't do anything about. I have no contact with his son's mother, by choice, and I let them work out schedules, pick up times, etc, and I make sure to be as positive as I can around his son (pretty easy he's a great kid, aside from the occasional tantrum). But I can't help but wonder a little at this latest turn in her. I know this is long and rambling, thanks for reading. I just wanted to know if I am overstepping, perhaps?
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