Step Families Support Group

Traditionally, a stepfamily is the family one acquires when a parent enters a new marriage, whether the parent was widowed or divorced. This community is focused on many of the relationships and issues that may arise within stepfamilies where you may find answers from some members and you may help other members with their questions.

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im not treated the same

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well....i have a family of a dad,mom,and 2 half brothers.my mom married a different guy which was my brothers dad but he died.then my mom remarried to my dad and had me.well my moms real mom died from cancer,but she has a step mom now...shes really nice to me most of time...but my oldest brother moved out to be withmy grandmother and everything after that went down hill.my grandmother would start sayin shit like heather(myself)has a dad steven and jimmy(half brothers)dont...and it would make me feel like shit.she would spoil them and i would get shit because i have a dad...im just not treated the same.
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I know how hard it is for you to have your parents, and seeing someone treat your half brothers better because they don't have a dad. My son, who just turned 9 today sometimes tells me that he feels like he is left out because the other 3 kids have step parents who give them gifts for birthdays and Christmas, and all he gets is presents from his parents. I know you probably don't see it right now, but losing a dad is a huge deal, and your half brothers probably go through times when they get sad about it. Since you have both parents, it does seem unfair that they get stuff that you don't get, but those are material things that in a while they won't be as important as having both parents is.

Have you tried talking to your mom about this? She can explain to your grandmother how you feel, and your grandmother may not even realize what she's doing. Talk to your mom, and if that doesn't make things better, then talk to your grandmother and let her know how you feel. I'm pretty sure that she doesn't realize how it's affecting you. Good luck, and let me know how things go.
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Yeah that's tough and a adult should know better.
I agree with Unique - talk to your Mom about it.
Tell her to read your Post and what Unique and I say plus whatever else is posted:

Mom: You're the adult here and responsible for your children. Anything that is doing harm to your children you will protect them from. If it's a bear or a Grandma. Tell Grandma the love she is losing. If if comes down to it tell her she's not welcome. Your children come first.
But Mom, you're the adult. If this kid is just being selfish and only telling us one side of the story you can ignore all this.
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