I'm writing today because I need to get some feelings out. My husband and I aren't doing very well. My step-daughter has been here since the 27th and she's going home to California in the morning. I love her dearly and she really is a sweet, kind hearted girl. But she has learned how to manipulate her father and how to pit him against me. I haven't told her to do much since she's been here, but when I do tell her something, my husband over rides my decisions without even talking to me. Before she came we talked and came to a decision that she should be in bed at 10pm on week days and 10:30 at the latest on weekends. She shares a room with my daughter. We have a day bed in there with a trundle bed that we pull out when Mckinize is here. I don't think she's even slept in there but more than 4 or 5 nights. And I don't believe she's gone to bed before 11 pm since she got here. She doesn't want to go to sleep so her and my husband go downstairs and he lets her stay up as long as he wants. She is only 9 years old and I think she is too young to stay up so late. Then she wants to sleep in when we're trying to get up and around and get things done. And when she does get up she is so tired that shes in a bad mood most of the day. I am so hurt and confused as to why he won't stay on track with the decisions we make for her care. I know that he wants her to have a wonderful time here so that she wants to come back. He doesn't want to upset her. But the other kids are getting resentful of their sister. She doesn't seem to have any rule and they do. They all have a bed time that I make them stick to--even my 17 year old and he's almost an adult! Faith doesn't understand why she has to follow the rules and McKinzie doesn't. Does anyone out there have any advice for me? I really don't know how to approach this subject. I don't want her brothers and sister to start resenting her because she is shown such favortism by their dad. I really could use some advice.
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