
Step Families Support Group
Traditionally, a stepfamily is the family one acquires when a parent enters a new marriage, whether the parent was widowed or divorced. This community is focused on many of the relationships and issues that may arise within stepfamilies where you may find answers from some members and you may help other members with their questions.
How to make my SD feel loved w/o stepping on toes

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Well, the fact is that I just don't know how to be a stepmom. My husband and I got engaged just a few months after we met, and we found out he had gotten his friend pregnant (through a one-night stand after they had both had really bad break-ups) about a month after we got engaged. So, I was at the hospital the night my stepdaughter was born. I was pregnant myself. My daughter was born a few months later with a rare disease, which caused her to die 12 days after her birth. For a while, I cried everytime I saw my step-daughter because her and my daughter should have been so close in age. It's getting better with time, and I finally feel ready to figure out how I fit into my step-daughter's life. She has a really wonderful mother who is so accomodating with my husband and myself. We have never had to bring a judge into it. We worked out custody and child support amongst ourselves. She and my husband were never in a relationship together, so there is no weird history to deal with. She and I get along great. Neither of us is threatened by the other one. It is a pretty enviable step-family situation. My only complaint is that I do not know what to do. Because I am so fond of my step-daughter's mother, I would never want to hurt her feelings or make her feel like I have over-stepped my boundaries. At the same time, I truly adore my step-daughter, and I want her to feel loved and comfortable in our home. She will turn one in a couple of weeks, and she is only going to get older. Does anyone have any advice on how I should act when I am with her? Thanks for reading my story!
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