I having been with fiancee for a year and a half,living with him for 6 months. I have been a stay at home for 11 yrs. now. He has 2 children ,11 yr. old daughter and a 7 yr. old son. I have a wonderful relationship with his daughter she is very loving and respectful. My problem is his son. I am at my wits end. My fiancee has joint custody of his children with his ex, but is now going for full custody because of certain behavior of the mom. He has alwas been a mommy's boy (my fiancee and I knew eachother prior to dating) but the past 8 months his mom has not been around very often. While in her care the grandma takes care of them and she treats him like he's 3! I know it drives he's sister bonkers they way they treat him but they say it's none of her buisness. He is struggling in school and is going to be held back due to the fact he doesn't have to school if he doesn't want to when he's at grandma's and sometimes mom's house. He is a beast to get motivated to go to school in the morning. He also has a habit of geting out of control at times ie. screaming doing laps around the house, pushing and shouting at the other children in the house. When I go to correct him he runs in his room and screams and cries at the top of his lungs he wants his mommy. I don't want to baby him or treat him differently I want him to be a team player and get along wih my children and his sister I can't wait on him hand and foot like his grandma does. My fiancee works long hours and is not around to see or deal with this. Although I support and love him and his children I don't want my children to feel neglected because of him. I have always had a wonderful and loving relationship with my children ages 11,9,6,4,2. My fiancee says to ignore when he's like this and he'll come around but I really want to help him I feel like he's frustrated. When he is with his mom she tells him I am bad person,I'll never be his mom, I can't take care of him like she can, and has him lie for her where they go because my fiancee will use it in court and take him away from her. Please if someone has some advice or this sounds familiar let me know..........
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