Its holiday time and the SK's are visiting with us for 6 days. My SD's are 5 & 8 and live with their mom. My DH usually gets them just every other weekend as there is distance between the homes. Last night the 5 year old said "I have two daddies!" Naturally she has a close relationship with her stepfather as she sees him more then her real dad. Today the girls - who had only been apart from their mom less then 24 hours - asked when they could call their mom. I know it hurt DH because the NEVER call him. He calls them regularly, but the never call him out of the blue. Their mom is not supportive of their relationship w/ DH. She wanted to start a new life and make him disappear. I can see the sadness and frustration in DH. I'm sure he feels that he has all but "lost" his daughters as he was quickly replaced by their stepdad, then they moved 2 hours away, and now their mom does all she can to prevent him from being at special events, etc.., I heard the girls on the phone tonight withe their mom. I heard the mom say "call me tomorrow and I'll let you talk to your other stuffed animal". I am not sure what to say or do. Or if there is anything I can really say or do. DH makes me so mad by kissing their mom's butt sometimes that I don't even want to talk about her or deal with it, at the same time, I'm his wife and I feel its my job to be there for him. Advice?
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