
Step Families Support Group
Traditionally, a stepfamily is the family one acquires when a parent enters a new marriage, whether the parent was widowed or divorced. This community is focused on many of the relationships and issues that may arise within stepfamilies where you may find answers from some members and you may help other members with their questions.

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My husband and I have been married 2 years, together for 3. Over the time we have been together, there have been numerous issues with his ex. Every little thing that happens, she blows way out of proportion and blames my husband. Right now they are going thru a whole court mess and trying to get visitation set, etc, as it has changed. She wants compete control and lies about everything my husband does. Anyway, I could go on and on, but that is just background. Ok, I knew when we got together that we both have ex's and that there would be issues from time to time. Now in addition to my husbands court time, I am fighting my ex as well over child support. I am trying to be very suppportive and understanding of my husband as he has been very stressed out and upset over what is going on, as well as trying to figure out how we are going to pay all these attorney bills. But the problem is that I am stressed as well, and I am just not feeling strong enough to deal with my stress and support him. I need support right now as well. I believe he is still bitter/angry about the whole divorce, which may be understandable, but at the same time I think he needs to move on from some of it as it doesn't seem healthy for him to keep all of those negative feelings. I have suggested to him very gently that he talk to someone about it, but he says he doesn't need to and that he knows what they will say anyway. But his feelings are starting to interfere with our relationship. He is so stressed that he snaps at me sometimes, and I feel he isn't giving our relationship the attention it needs. I am beginning to feel resentful that it seems he spends more time fighting and being angry with his ex than he does having good times with me and our family. I'm really not trying to be selfish, but I don't know what to do. I'm afraid that if I continue on this way I will really snap and go off on him and we will get into a huge fight. Any ideas how I can approach this with him so that he will understand how I feel and why I am hurt?
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