how can my husband, biomom, and every other member of ss hand him over to me to raise, while they do NOTHING when it comes to him, and then hubby bitch if i say something about nobody sticking with the program? how can they have nothing to do with any decissions made because they want no part of it then bitch about it later? ss has autism, this have to be done certain ways with him at all times. he is doing soooooo good. until other family members are present, its like if they are present then i have no say, they spend minimum time with him, dad 1-2 hrs at most, nanny he might go stay a night with her once a week, eggdonor gets him everyother weekend and when he gets home its like starting over. they have the mentality "give him anything he wants to keep him from whinning" and he knows it. like i said he is very smart, has autism, but very smart. how can they do this? i know i am going to be told to back off and let them handle it, the problem is, when i back off, ss WILL regress because not a single one of them have a clue on what to do with him, which is why he was in such horrible shape when i got him. they dont want to do it, but if they here him whine because he doesnt want to put his shoes on, he wants someone else to do it for him, then i am wrong for asking them to not do it, he can do it, just ignore him and he will do it. they have no problem with him playing with girl dolls inapproprately, i do. playing with them is one thing, damned near molesting them is another. he is ocd, autism, adhd, and undiagnosed pychotic problem that he has eval scheduled for in july. how can they dump all this in my lap, watch me go above and beyond and actually get this child to the point that he can be a part of society, something he was unable to do 128 months ago, and then not follow the program that works for him? how can hubby not expect biomom to pay her cs and share of med bills after i worked my ass off for months to get him into summer program and now he cant go because if she doesnt pay her share we cant afford it? what is wrong here? i feel so used and to be honest am giving divorce serious thought.
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