I think you are right. The boys don't have to do everything together. It may even cause tension b/w them if your son feels he must share his friends. My brothers are twins and they dealt with that issue alot. Also is your son always there when your ss is? If so, your ss may enjoy this one on one time with you both, since he is not there full time. Advise wise, maybe if you present it to your husband as any opportunity to bond, he may see it in a different light. Hope this helps. Good Luck

i would spin it another way...i would suggest that it would be nice to have some father and son time...that it would be good for them to have time together without your son and that perhaps they could go trick or treating together. boys need dad time...and sometimes some one on one time is special.

I think that you are absolutely right. Just because your ss is coming over that doesn't mean that your son shouldn't go with his friends. If your husband is so sure that his child is being slighted, then he should look within himself, because the way we do things here is that either I take the kids and my husband stays at home to hand out candy, or he takes the kids. We never send them just on their own. So, maybe he is feeling guilty that he wanted someone else to take care of his son during this time. I think this would be a great opportunity for him to spend time with his son, as having visitation just doesn't afford parents much time with their children. But, don't feel bad, you were absolutely right in what you did.

The point of the boy visiting is to be with his Dad.
The boy is not attached at the hip to his step-brother.
Dad is overly sensitive about this but also there is probably a core of truth to his concern.

I agree with your decision. Every kid, wants to enjoy their friends exclusively at times.

I also agree with the other ladies that replied.

Some situations, don't always apply to friends only. My DH always wants the three of us to do things as a family. While I have no problem with this, I highly encourage DH to spend quality, one-on-one, Father/Son time. At first he refused, stating that family time was all that mattered. Now, he sees the reasoning behind my statement. While we had my SS for 6 weeks this summer, I was shocked to be told, that DH was taking his son up to the local school and teaching him to ride his bike. Never was there an offer to take me along. Did it offend me? No way! I was pleased that they were spending a part of the day together. Besides, it allowed me time to clean the house, without two males making more of a mess! They went shopping together, and also enjoyed Father/Son time while tending to the yard work. DH thanked me, for the repeated reminders, to take the the time and share it with his son.

Encourage your DH, to look at the positive aspects of one-on-one time. He should never let an opportunity like that pass him by. His son may be craving that attention, and just never show it. Your SS can "hang" with his SB and friends anytime. He may not get many chances to say, "Yup, I spent time with my Dad, just the two of us."

Good luck! I hope the storm has blown over by now. Keep us posted.

I am sorry, but I agree with your husband. My feelings would be hurt as well if I were him. It is a special treat to actually have a holiday fall on your regular visitation day. his would have been a perfect bonding time for your family, especially your son and his.

I totally agree with you. The visitation is set up for father/son time, not time with your son. Maybe if your husband had brought it up earlier, rather than just assuming that your son would be there to spend time with his son.