
Step Families Support Group
Traditionally, a stepfamily is the family one acquires when a parent enters a new marriage, whether the parent was widowed or divorced. This community is focused on many of the relationships and issues that may arise within stepfamilies where you may find answers from some members and you may help other members with their questions.

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Ok, I would just like some opinions as to what you would have done in this situation. My ss comes to our house every Wed. and spends the night. He is 9 and my son is 10. Well, tonight my son asked to go with his friend to their cousins house in another neighborhood to go trick or treating. I said he could go. Well, my husband went balistic that I let him go when my ss would be here, because now who was he going to go with? And couldn't I have asked if he could go too? He wasn't invited and I don't think it is fair to my son to have to ask if my ss can go along. My son and ss get along very well and are good buddies. But I don't think that they always have to be together or that he should have to miss out on hanging out with his friends if my ss is here. My husband said that if I knew my ss was coming over, he would want to go trick or treating with my son and now he was going to feel bad. We got in a big fight over it, and he said that this just proves that his kids come last. I think to have made my son stay home would have been unfair. I don't feel bad about my decision, but it is very tense in this house right now and my husband isn't speaking to me. any opinions?
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The boy is not attached at the hip to his step-brother.
Dad is overly sensitive about this but also there is probably a core of truth to his concern.
I also agree with the other ladies that replied.
Some situations, don't always apply to friends only. My DH always wants the three of us to do things as a family. While I have no problem with this, I highly encourage DH to spend quality, one-on-one, Father/Son time. At first he refused, stating that family time was all that mattered. Now, he sees the reasoning behind my statement. While we had my SS for 6 weeks this summer, I was shocked to be told, that DH was taking his son up to the local school and teaching him to ride his bike. Never was there an offer to take me along. Did it offend me? No way! I was pleased that they were spending a part of the day together. Besides, it allowed me time to clean the house, without two males making more of a mess! They went shopping together, and also enjoyed Father/Son time while tending to the yard work. DH thanked me, for the repeated reminders, to take the the time and share it with his son.
Encourage your DH, to look at the positive aspects of one-on-one time. He should never let an opportunity like that pass him by. His son may be craving that attention, and just never show it. Your SS can "hang" with his SB and friends anytime. He may not get many chances to say, "Yup, I spent time with my Dad, just the two of us."
Good luck! I hope the storm has blown over by now. Keep us posted.