This is my first post. I am totally frustrated about this situation and that is why I am here. My partner's 14 year old is the sweetest, most athletic, beautiful and spoiled girl I know. She is outgoing, has lots of friends and a part-time job. She is with us part time (2 weeks here and 2 weeks at her mom's). When she is here her Dad totally focuses on her and I might as well not even be here. I know...you're all thinking I'm jealous. I've thought that too. The other three kids feel the same though. The world revolves around "K" for him. From financial to fun, it's all about her. She wants to miss school so she can go skiing. I say no, he says yes. I don't agree with that. He's not teaching her to be responsible by skipping school to go skiing. Am I a hard-ass? When she is here, he finds humour in telling her stupid things I may have done while she was at her mom's. Secret stuff that I have shared with him. I don't like it. I get embarassed. When he is gone for work, we get along awesome!! No one is competing. I don't think she sees what the rest of us see. I do think she thrives on the attention though. It's attention she doesn't get at her mom's. He said to me last weekend that he knows she bugs me...it's not her that bugs me but how he acts towards her when she is here. That's what bugs me. I'm trying to sort this whole thing out and hitting brick walls as to how to deal with it. What my daughter did 2 years ago and was "wrong" she is not doing and it's because "she's only 14". I have said to him that I can hardly wait until she's 25 because I'm sure he'll say "well, she's only 25!!". Grrrrrr.
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