Well, in the 13 months we have been doing this, my step-daughter's mother had her first melt down. It started as her calling me because she was mad at my mother-in-law for taking her daughter out of town and not coming back when she said she would. She called me to run interference and get the baby home as quickly as possible. An hour or so later, I sent her a text message asking her to remember that it was the grandmother who had done that and asking her, basically, not to take it out on us. That's when she exploded saying that she was angry with my husband too. He is younger than both her and myself. He is still growing up, and he has cancelled on his daughter several times when he was supposed to have her. Sometimes his reasons are valid (he had the flu or got called into work or whatever), but there have been a couple of times when he missed seeing her because he wanted to watch football. He also pays child support in a way that she cannot plan on it coming on, say, the first. He just pays whenever he thinks about it. She is really laid back and has never confronted him. It all built up and she let it out the other day. His mother and I have seen this coming and have tried to stay on him about spending time with his daughter and paying the mother consistently. He does good for a while, but then he will slip back into his bad habits. I'm exhausted with chasing after him trying to make him do the right thing or trying to fill in for him in his absence. I adore my husband, and I don't want to see him ruin his relationship with his daughter or the good working relationship we have with her mother because of his immaturity. He loves his daughter, and I believe he has it in him to be a good father. I think he will start to grow up and prioritize over the next couple of years. I just don't want it to be too late. Like I said, I've sat him down and had a heart to heart with him and so has his mother. I've asked his daughter's mother to talk to him too and explain to him what she expects. I love my step-daughter so much, and I want the world for her. Any advice on how I should handle this situation would be greatly appreciated.
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