Step Families Support Group
Traditionally, a stepfamily is the family one acquires when a parent enters a new marriage, whether the parent was widowed or divorced. This community is focused on many of the relationships and issues that may arise within stepfamilies where you may find answers from some members and you may help other members with their questions.
I think this is the appropriate forum for this question.
Tonight I am going out on a first date with a very exciting woman that has a 14 year old son. We are all going to dinner together and I'm planning for us to also hit the arcades for a night of fun.
I've been told that teen age sons tend to be territorial with their mother. I'd like to minimize this and would appreciate suggestions on the best way to handle this. I'm not interested in being fake to the young man like a fake buddy or father.
Maybe it isn't territorial (or tribal)? If it is, maybe all I need to do is make him feel comfortable that I'm not invading his space and show him some respect? I have had experience raising a 13 year old step daughter to her twenties, but I think that is quite different.
Please post anything whether it sounds silly or not.
Tonight I am going out on a first date with a very exciting woman that has a 14 year old son. We are all going to dinner together and I'm planning for us to also hit the arcades for a night of fun.
I've been told that teen age sons tend to be territorial with their mother. I'd like to minimize this and would appreciate suggestions on the best way to handle this. I'm not interested in being fake to the young man like a fake buddy or father.
Maybe it isn't territorial (or tribal)? If it is, maybe all I need to do is make him feel comfortable that I'm not invading his space and show him some respect? I have had experience raising a 13 year old step daughter to her twenties, but I think that is quite different.
Please post anything whether it sounds silly or not.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Yes, boys are extremely territorial of their mothers, (I have 3 boys).
What I've seen my husband do with my sons is (and he is being sincere) try to relate to them using music. Asking them have they heard any new stuff they like and listening to their current favorite song, then he plays them a song he likes (old or new).
Plus, bonus, you can tell a lot about someones state of mind by the music they like or listen to, but you knew that.
I have received some good input on my question. It appears my information was correct. Teen boys don't like their mothers to get into any kind of relationship. It grosses them out to think of it. And it seems the best way to overcome this is to simply become genuinely interested in the teen's life and interests. It may take more time for some than others.
I'm not really looking for dating. She is someone that I would be friends with. I can't really read more into it.