I am a stepmother to two girls. I'ts a different situation, neither my husband or his ex are the custodial parent....my husbands parents have custody. Its a long story about why and how they still are. My concern are the children...the girls have never had to want anything in their life. Everytime my husband and i go to his mom's to see or get the kids his mom is showing off yet another expensive item that she has purchased for them. Their birthdays are close together and they just turned 9 and 11...of course anytime my husband and i try to get gifts for them it is a hassle because they dont ever know what they want and we can't figure out because they already have everything cool that a child would have. Of course this year grandma had to top it off to the extreme...she got the girls 2 horses. Which dont get me wrong the girls from what i see are taking the responsibility for now...but they are only children. I can't complain about it too much when i was 11 my parents bought me a horse, but it was only natural considering my parents owned horses. Anything that we get his mom will run out the next day and get....for insistance..last year we got a Wii...shortly after that she had one for the girls...the day the Wii fit came out i wanted to see if we could get it...for me to work out on...well the kids come over play on it. We go over to see the kids and of course what do we see..but a Wii fit. They rent a home and for a long time, all we heard about was this land they wanted to purchase and this house they wanted to get, and finally his mom said they couldnt efford a house payment but goes out and buys a brand new car, this house they rent is a two bedroom home, stuffed to the rim of things. Two growing girls need more space, not more toys. I'm worried about the girls and what kind of adults they will be in the future. Ugh...anyone have a similar situation? How do you deal with it?
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