For the last 12 months I've cared for my stepson as his mother found him extremely difficult and didn't want him to "ruin her life"! My partner Stephen is in civil construction and moves around alot, so for the last eight months I've had to care for Ben on my own. It's a very fine line between teenage behaviour and depression and it took me sometime to figure it all out! I have a 14 year old daughter who also felt the strain of having Ben in our house as I focused alot on him and she was so used to having me all to herself! Twice I've applied discipline (and rightly so as I'm his main carer) and both times he's gone back to his mother because he didn't get his own way! I've told all concerned that his is not a revolving door and I have now SHUT the damn thing! The problem is he feels he's worth money (child support), his mother loses it when he lives with us and when he lives with her we have to pay it, so he's got it in his head that he can dictate the terms and I'm sure I know who gave him this power! I've worked with Ben and his psycologist on his self esteem and he's come such a long way! I feel soo hurt that he's done this to me! I should have had the support of his mother, she could have sent him home advising that I was doing what was best, remember she threw him out! I now resent this boy sooo much and he's my partner's son. Any suggestions on what I can do to change this?
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