Hi all, I need to get my feelings out and ask for some advice. I am a mother of three, the two oldest are by my ex and the youngest by my husband. My husband and I have been together for 10 years, my two oldest children were (daughter)2 and (son)6 months. I thought by now my husband would be fully excepted by them, and it just has not happened yet. The two older kids father does not really pay any attention to them. Only when it is good for him.(But that is a whole other topic.)Anyways, my husband has taken my two children and treated them as if they were his, in his eyes there is no difference between them and our daughter. He loves them and does everything for them. My husband is their father in my eyes. He has been there when their dad hasnt, he provides for them, loves them, diciplines them, the whole nine yards. Well here is the problem, they are fine when he is doing something for them, or playing around or whatever. Its when he diciplines them, they tell him he is mean, they dont like him, he is not ther dad, and so on. Then come running to me telling me what happened and he is so meaan, then when I agree with him, they tell me I am just sticking up for him, that I don't love them. That all I care about is him. It tears me apart. Over the past few days it has got worse. My husband finally said he is not going to dicipline them anymore, because he is tired of being the bad guy. He also said he was going to start treating them with the same respect, they give him. Now let me add, my husband got injured at work about 5 years ago, so he is home with the kids all day, he is the one that gets them ready for school, gets them after school, makes their meals and so on,and I go to work. So naturally he does do most of the diciplining with all the children. I am just so confused right now, I don,t know what to do to make our lives easier. If my husband was mean to my children he would be gone in a second, but he loves them and takes good care of them. What can I do to help the three of them become closer, to get through to mostly my daughter that, her real father and me will never be together again, and they need to respect my husband, and learn to live with the fact that we are not going to be toghetherever again. Help me please.
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