Ok well this is going to be a long one. Ok well right now i'm going through the stress of being a step parent, but at the same time playing the full mommy role. My hubby has a child from a previouse partnership. i ment my hubby 6 years ago. When i met him his son was living with his mother. After a few months we watched her go down hill allot. Found out she was living in a drug house with him, (coke ,crack,meth,e) So needless to say he came to live with us. Now at the time i was 18 and 8 6 months pregnant with our first child. Now his son was born at 1pd 10oz, So in the last for years i have went through many child evaluations with him. Now after he came to live with us she was too buissy having fun. She would not see him for months at a time, phone and say she would come see him, and never show up. When she did want to see him she expected us to let him go to her house. Which was not happening because it is a drug house. She is on welfare and still getting Child tax for him, even through she does not have him. So this goes on for about 3 or 4 years. She moved away so we could not hear about the things she was doing. She had another child who was taken by Social servaces. Got pregnant with another guy who had beet her up on a regular basis. Now She is trying to play mommy again. She still only phones like once a month. I look at her as a disney land mom. She lets him do anything, Lets him play playstation games where you beat peopl;e up and pick up hookers. When he comes back all he talkes about is 50 Cent ( the rapper ) Becuause she thinks it's cool that he like that music. In my point of veiw this is not stuff FOR A 6 YEAR OLD ! She tells him he can go to school there next year, and tells him he does not have to listen to me or anyone in my family ( who has been his only family for the last 5 years, her family is not a part of his life at all !) So when he gets home it is a constant fight because of all these manipulative things she is putting into his head. She gets mad because we never phone her, At the same time I tryed to get her involved in his live for the first 2 years and she would not. I would phone her and tell her that he misses her and see if she could come get him for a few hours. She would not. So in my point of veiw if she wants to be a part it is up to her. She can phone, it's not up to me to build the bridge that she has burnt. I have done my part , i wish she would do hers. Now i just wish that she would either be a full responsible part in his life or just leave,, is this bad of me to think this ?
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