Hello. I have a 5 year old stepdaughter and no children of my own. She was kept away from my hubby from the time she was 6 months old until we finally got the money together to hire a lawyer and get a DNA test and ask for visitation. The reason for the DNA test was that she was telling my hubby and another guy that they were the father, and the other guy went to all the appointments with her while she was pregnant, and my hubby told her he wanted to be there when she was born. Well, the day she was born, her mother called my hubby's mom (and she had a way to get in touch with my hubby) 4 hours after she was born and said that they had had a DNA test done with the other guy and it was his. Then, 2 weeks later, called and told him that the other guy had a friend who worked in the hospital lab that had changed the results and that she was actually my hubby's daughter, so they changed the birth certificate, then she told him she didn't want him around and didn't want anything from him. For the first 3 1/2 years of her life she was told that yet another man was her father, and every time we tried to call and get to visit with her, we were told some story and then the next time we called the number was changed. So, we got the DNA test and started with supervised (by her mother) visitation and worked our way from there, trying to make sure the little girl was comfortable. When it came time to start standard weekend/holiday visitation, she tried to stop visitation saying that we had brought her home from one of the 6 hour visitations we had with a bug bite!!!! Well, the judge laughed at her. And we now have a very well adjusted little girl every other weekend and on alternating holidays. I love her to death. Her mom still tries to start problems, but it's been a while since that has happened....but, she refuses to talk to us or interact with us at all..we have to deal with her new "husband" and her mother and grandmother. At any rate, she has trouble breathing at night, and has a constant cough, and very frequent ear infections. The dr scheduled to have her tonsils and adenoids out, and tubes put in her ears, but her mother canceled it at the last minute, saying it would be too stressful for her. I think it is too stressful for the girl to be sick all the time and constantly worry about her breathing at night. I can't sleep cuz I'm always checking to be sure she's still breathing. How can we have a say in her medical treatments???
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