
Step Families Support Group
Traditionally, a stepfamily is the family one acquires when a parent enters a new marriage, whether the parent was widowed or divorced. This community is focused on many of the relationships and issues that may arise within stepfamilies where you may find answers from some members and you may help other members with their questions.

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I am sick to death of dealing with stepkids! Their attitudes, behavior and downright disrespectful ways.
Told my hubby LONG ago I didn't want to raise more kids nor go through these teen years again after raising my own sons. He thought I was joking...I wasn't. And we have separated TWICE due to them!
Have dealt with death threats, protection orders, numerous court situations and even sexual abuse that dealt with BOTH my family and HIS! In fact most women have told me for YEARS they could have NEVER stayed after the one incident. But I have tried to be forgiving and yet...this particular child becomes more and more disrespectful to me.
Hubby and I fought last night over me saying something that affected him when I meant it to do with his son - NOT him. THIS is the kind of crap I am talking about! I am sick of defending myself because these kids are OUT OF HAND!
His daughter...went back into danger with her "banned by court" bio Mom and it's unreal the awful change she has made in 3 months. Looking and talking trashy that is going to get her hurt or DEAD!
This boy thinks because he's 17 and can drive...he can just take off to his 15 yr old girlfriend's whenever without asking..yet he's TOO embarrassed to have US meet her!?? What the H is THAT??
Tired if it...like I have said over and over "My hubby is SO lucky I love him as much as I do..."
Told my hubby LONG ago I didn't want to raise more kids nor go through these teen years again after raising my own sons. He thought I was joking...I wasn't. And we have separated TWICE due to them!
Have dealt with death threats, protection orders, numerous court situations and even sexual abuse that dealt with BOTH my family and HIS! In fact most women have told me for YEARS they could have NEVER stayed after the one incident. But I have tried to be forgiving and yet...this particular child becomes more and more disrespectful to me.
Hubby and I fought last night over me saying something that affected him when I meant it to do with his son - NOT him. THIS is the kind of crap I am talking about! I am sick of defending myself because these kids are OUT OF HAND!
His daughter...went back into danger with her "banned by court" bio Mom and it's unreal the awful change she has made in 3 months. Looking and talking trashy that is going to get her hurt or DEAD!
This boy thinks because he's 17 and can drive...he can just take off to his 15 yr old girlfriend's whenever without asking..yet he's TOO embarrassed to have US meet her!?? What the H is THAT??
Tired if it...like I have said over and over "My hubby is SO lucky I love him as much as I do..."
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However, it sounds like it's the adults you should be fed up with. This is the conclusion I'm drawing in my own situation as well.
I don't want to sound discouraging but unless the adults get their acts together, it's not going to change. The focus needs to be on the parents, not the kids.
You need to talk to your husband. You guys need to present a united front. As long as there is arguing between the two of you; the kids will always get away with all sorts of crap. You guys need to be on the same page on how to handle things. If not, there's going to be chaos.
Also, how much does your husband love you???? Does he love you enough to demand his children show you some respect? Does he love his children enough to be a responsible parent to them?
They're kids. They're going to test the limits. As long as they're allowed to get away with things, they will. It's their job. It's the parents job to set some loving limits and boundaries for them.
It sounds like these children have had a rough time. It's not an excuse but it does sounds like they need some TLC. Good luck!