My husband and I knew each other for a year or so before we got married. He has four children and they seemed to be good kids and they seemed to like me until we got married. We used to have custody of all the kids so they lived with us. Three of them were 16 and older and they were always normal teenagers (sometimes they like you sometimes they don't:)). The one that I have had problems with is the youngest. He was 9 when he was living with us. He seemed ok at fisrt then he started to change. He was one way in front of his dad and another in front of me. His dad just couldn't believe that he was acting so bad. His son would tell me that he was going to do anything he could so we would divorce. At first I thought he was just really hurting but, he was acting worse than any other kid I knew in his situation. He would cry and cry to get his dad to sleep with him and then his son would come up to me (behind his dad's back)and give me a smirk and say" he's not sleeping with you tonight..ha ha.".I really thought I was handling the situation. I was giving him more attention than his mom ever did and I let him have daddy time where they did stuff together with no one else.He just got worse and worse. One day he said he was going to kill me and my daughter and explained how. He was always on my last nerve saying things like" you really shouldn't be using a knife (when I was cooking dinner)..women don't know what they are doing". Those comments were weird because his dad is very respectiful towards women. The worst was when his son started to make nasty comments toward my daughter. Then before you knew it I caught him trying to put his hands up my daughters dress. When I confronted him he said "Well, she is not really my sister." My mom was there so I have a witness to waht he said. I told my husband and he did not know what to think. Since then we do not have custody and we live in a different state. The kids mainly live with their grandma. The youngest lives with his mom. I told my husband that when his son comes for his summer visit I do not want him in the house. I would end up watching him and he would be around our daughters and I do not trust him. If he comes I want them to get a hotel and spend time together that way. My husband has agreed to this but, he is very upset. He thinks I am over reacting but I don't think I am. I said that I don't mind visiting his kids to see if his son is changing any. I said that this probably wouldn't be the case evey summer . I just can't handle him right now. His son is now 10 and I have heard that he has a 14 year old girfriend and has been on the playboy website many times. Now I REALLY don't think I am over reacting. My husband still thinks otherwise. I want him to see his kids but, I want to be safe about it. What should I do? Am I doing the right thing?
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