I printed out Trina's post about the different stages of recovery for the partners of sex addicts to refer back to when I am feeling one of the many different emotions that I flip-flop back and forth from. I seem to spend most of my time in the shock/crisis stage and sometimes venture into the grief/rebuilding stage. What I keep running into though is that I almost have to keep my true feelings quietly to myself while my PA is soldiering through his recovery. There have been small moments when he has acknowledged how his addiction has hurt me, but it seems that I am almost expected to deal with my pain on my own and that anything I say about how I feel is just viewed as me being unsupportive. Am I just supposed to keep to myself while he "busts his ass" (as he put it) trying to recover? How do I get from one stage to the next when I feel like my feelings are being minimized by him?
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