I'm fairly new here. I've gained a lot of insight by reading the posts and replies. My situation has been going on for a couple of years. My H of 27 years goes to strip clubs on a fairly regular basis. I saw the money going out of our checking account, but I was in deep denial. He also travels out of town on business, and seems to know where those clubs are located. Apparently, it's common knowledge that his co-workers know about his choice of extracurricular activities. I even learned that he had asked some of the guys to go with him. They've refused. I know this because I also work for the same company. I finally got strong enough to leave him in January, and for the last 2 months I've been living with our daughter and son-in-law. My H has had to learn to pay bills, do laundry, grocery shop and take care of the house. I established my own checking account, so at least half of the money is now safe. If I had thought that being alone would somehow bring him to his senses, I guess I was wrong. He doesn't seem to be the least bit bothered by the situation. He asked me yesterday if he was going to be included in our daughter's birthday celebration. I told him no. She won't have anything to do with her dad at this time. He knows that we are waiting for him to admit his addiction, but he refuses. I'm pretty sure he's still going to the strip clubs, because I checked his account and he took out $300.00 over the weekend. That's what he usually spends when he goes. This particular club is known as basically a prostitution site. Lap dances are on a sliding scale. The day I moved out, I left a SA test assessment on the coffee table. He would pass with flying colors. I've asked him about seeking therapy, and he was concerned about the cost. How ironic is that? The co-pay is only $20.00. He spends more than that just on the cover charge. Am I fooling myself that there's a future for us? Should I just give up and file for divorce?
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