Maybe you guy can help me: I am an ex-spouse of a SA, to be clear. And I am still having alot of fallout from it. As time goes on, I become increasingly aware of how difficult it really was to be married to him. I have been a member of the Break-Ups & Divorce group on DS for about a year, and have found it to be a vry positive and helpful place. But I am having a real problem now, worse now for some reason than other times, with alot of content there that reminds me of my difficulties with my ex's addictions. Specifically, certain members who seem to always make everything about sex no matter how innocuous the topic starts out, so I invariably bump into it constantly. My ex's addictions invaded every part of our marriage and ultimately destroyed it. This increasing sensitivity on my part to anything that I perceive as similar behavior to my ex's behavior is just about to cause me to leave a group that has been so important in my life. I admit that I am becoming more aware of just how invasive his behavior was, even tho what I knew before was very difficult to deal with, it just gets worse as I get farther away from it (altho I am also sure it will lessen again, probably rapidly, once I truly & finally deal with it somehow). I admit that I am becoming super-sensitive about it lately as I understand it more & more. But I hate to see it have this particular effect on me. Any advice? This really has been a problem for me. How do you recover from it? I presume I will, but what can I do to speed things up?
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