My H kind of fell off the wagon over the weekend. He didn't have cybersex or phone sex, but he did use porn. He didn't tell me about it, I just found it. I was a little crushed because I thought we were making progress. It felt like the day I found out about all of this. He was still sleeping when I went to discuss it with him. It took him a second to admit it, but he did. He was a little upset with me I think. He called me later in the day to say he didn't appreciate the discussion or the tone. I said I was upset because he had promised to come to me if he felt like he was going to slip. He didn't. He started to turn it back on me, but he stopped himself. He has mixed feelings about his recovery. He keeps saying it's his problem and he'll deal with it however he has to. I say it's our problem and our marriage is hanging by a thread because of this problem. I don't know how he thinks that I wouldn't mention what I discovered. I felt like I had to talk about it and get it out there, to tell him I knew. I also wanted to make sure he wasn't up to anything else. I'm not sorry for asking him about it. I'm trying to protect myself. He's upset, because he feels like he's under a microscope. How do people get past these feelings? He has put us through a lot and I'm still upset about it. If I want to question him about his behavior I think I have a right. He destroyed my trust in him not me.
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