Ok so I confronted him about his problems with looking at porn everyday and his panty addiction and told him how I felt.. This is not our first rodeo with these discussions. He first blamed me for getting into his bubble and checking his computer. Which is always how it starts out. I pretty much told him I couldnt live like this anymore. I try to give him what he wants sexually but he turns me down and makes a joke out of it. I told him how that makes me feel. He was drunk at the time and I had to go to work the next day so I told him we would finish the conversation the next day. He then took a crow bar and beat the hell outta his computer. I asked him why he did that and he said t prove to me that he loved me and the computer didnt matter. I got so mad I just went to bed.. Got up the next day went to work , came home to a spic and span clean house yard mowed.. He then told me that he threw away all his porn my toys and my panties. I told him that I was proud of him for thst but whos to say he wouldnt find a way to do it again when he got the urge.. he said well thats a bridge we will cross together when it comes. He says he loves me and he doesnt mean to make me feel that way about sex. I love this man more thn anything.. so I guess we r gonna try for a 4th time to work things out.. Im at the end of my rope tho because I dont want to feel this way anymore.. He thinks sex is supposed to be slutish and rough and involve porn and his panty fetish and fantisizing about other ppl we know alll the time.. I am not saying we cant have fun. but there is a line that u shouldnt cross. I will not cross again... I guess time will tell and we will see.. I feel bad about having to check behind his back for things but we have been close for years and I just know when something isnt right.. and there has not been one time that I have felt that way and there hasnt been something he has done or lied about!! So am I wrong for doing that? Am I wrong for going through his phone or his computer? Thanks for reading this long bit of jibberish but it makes me feel better to know im not alone.. If u r lost I have more to the story posted on the about me section on my page.. Thanks for your time.