Well, he said, 'I'm not acting out anymore .... ' And!!!!! So I'm supposed to be grateful, applaud him, pat him on the back, tell him that everything is now ok then and we can get on with life! Sadly I've been here before. But, am I missing the point here ... isn't fidelity the absolute base line for recovery and a healthy, loving, respectful relationship. Shouldn't I be expecting nothing less from him?