i was with my best friend today and as usual this topic came up. she basically told me that if i really want to be with my husband then i will have to accept his child and if i don't accept his child then i will lose him. she was like "well as hard as i know it will be, i know that i love my husband and if he did this then i would have to accept his child so that we can stay together." i told her that that sounds so much easier than it really is. i told her "yeah we all say that the child is innocent and did not ask to be here and deserves to have her father in her life, but that does not change the pain that you feel." it makes me crazy that she just thinks that it is that clear. i told her that maybe once she got past all of the emotions that come along with this then maybe she can see things that clearly but it is not that simple. i forget to mention to her that she will not only be heavily affected but so will her 4 children. people who have not been in this situation just think this is so cut and dry and that makes me crazy. sometimes i just want to say, "well when you go thru this tell me how easy it is." AAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHH!
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