I have been married for almost 9 years (August) and have a 3 year old son. I found out in October that my husband had an affair with a woman that he works with. She called and left a message on the phone. I confronted him. He didn't deny and left for a few days. He came back home and we started going to marriage counseling. We started really working on the issues that had been causing problems in our marriage and the feelings that came with the affair. It felt like it was on the upswing. On January 1, I found a text message on his phone, Yes, I was snooping because I felt like something wasn't right. The message was to another girl. I confronted him and found out he had been having an affair with this 21 year old girl since he left in October. Needless to say, he left again, came home, left again, came home. This last time he left, I told him I was done. I wasn't then nor am I now. After a few days he came home to talk to me. He told me that this girl was pregnant. Says that he feels like he can't just up and leave her. She is still in college and he owes it to her and the baby to support them. I have repeatedly asked him to come home and attempt to salvage this marriage. I understand that he will want to be part of this childs life when it is born but want to stay married to him. I love this man. My family and close friends already know what is going on. I have filed for divorce but have asked my lawyer to hold off on serving him right now. My husband says that it is tempting to come home but doesn't know if it will ever work. I am so lost. I don't want to push him because then I feel like we will both regret any decisions we make. Just lost and confused.