spouses and illegitimate children Community Group
Dealing with your spouse not only having an affair but a child as a result and how it affects your day to day life and the lives of your children.
hey guys hope you had a great weekend. anyway i was just wondering if most of you feel like i do. i was reading the post in the infidelity forum and so any people are in pain over their spouses affair and i was just thinking to myself-"GOD HOW I WISH IT WERE ONLY AN AFFAIR." what i would not give to just have had my husband only screw a few woman here and there or even have one that he dealt with solely. but to have a kid as a result. i just want to tell the people that if you love your spouse and all he/she did was cheat, and he/she is sorry and wants to do better-take it. i would trade places with them in a heartbeat.
pillar
jaeW... I was reading old post from our original forum yesterday. You were such an inspiration to me. Those feelings you were having for the child were put above so much else last summer. I know you've been questioning all of it lately...but you and my 12 yr old are the only reasons I'm where I'm at today. These children could truly be the end of our happiness.......or the beginning of the most unconditional love no one in this lifetime could ever imagine. Do we embrace it? OR run the hell away from it? You and I and others have too much love in us yet. No matter what everyone else thinks...this has not taken all of our love away yet. We are still the most loving women out there....and yes the rest of them are jealous as hell!
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thanks pillar-it feels good to know that i have inspired you. you guys have helped me so much and to know that i have helped someone is the best feeling in the world. thank you so much!
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thanks pillar-it feels good to know that i have inspired you. you guys have helped me so much and to know that i have helped someone is the best feeling in the world. thank you so much!
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Though my situation is slightly different since he cheated on me after the baby was already here. I have thought of that very thing. But i think regardless it would hurt but you are so right in this situation these OW won't go away they will always be there. For me the one woman I was insecure about was her only because I never had any children. So it was the ultimate betrayal. However, the blessing and curse of being a woman is that we love so hard.
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