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Dealing with your spouse not only having an affair but a child as a result and how it affects your day to day life and the lives of your children.
her birthday is in 6 days

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my H's childs birthday is in 6 days and these are the days that make me crazy. for her 1st birthday i did not know about her and he went to a party at her moms house, year 2 i knew about her and we went to the beach for a week during her birthday, he sent her a card and money. this is her 3rd birthday and we already had an agreement that he would not attend any events with her mother and that if he wanted to do something for her birthday than we would do something seperately. well since i have gracefully bowed out, i don't know if or what he plans to do. i won't say that i will be happy if he decides to do something with her but i won't let it ruin my day. i already told myself that if he wants to do something with her then i will just say "do what you need to do" and our son and me will do something else, the park, chuck e. cheeses, have a playdate, or whatever. anyway i just was struggling with this today and wanted to share it with you guys. thanks in advance.
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I wish I could erase this from your life, take away all your pain. I wish I could be with you on that day to help you but please know I'll be thinking about you and praying for you! You are a wonderful, strong, loving person! I really hope your husband knows what a special person he's married to! At this point you're a much better person than I am!
You keep doing what you're doing. When you face God someday, I know He'll look you in the eyes and say, "Well done, my child. I'm so proud of you!"