I'm leaving DS and I wanted to say goodbye. No one has done anything that has upset me, I've just gotten to a point that I'm ready to move forward and continue to heal. With no offense intended...there are so many people here that aren't willing or ready to move on. This I can totally relate to because I've been there for almost 2 years now but there comes a time when we need to realize that complaining and crying about what's happened won't change anything, we are also responsible for what happens in our marriages from this point on. The past can not be changed. We are forced to live on and if we are wanting to stay married, we have to do right by our husbands, even though what they did was so not right, it's in the past and they can only try to do what's right from now on. I also have to deal with my husbands child from the affair, at least one of them. I won't take care of the kid or have anything to do with it but I have no right to expect my husband or his family to do the same. I do expect them to work with me so I don't get hurt any more by this, if they can't I'll have another decision to make. I won't let my husband leave me because I expect things that he won't do. I want to stay for this moment and so I have to move forward and learn how to live with all this or I'll have to leave so he can live with it on his own. Can't have it both ways and trying to make him understand and do what I want is a fast road to failure. I pray you all can find happiness and peace and a new way to live for love and yourselves. I'm on the road to that myself and I'll never forget any of you! You all have been very kind and understanding and I love you all! No need to respond to this post, I won't be back to see it anyhow. Thanks for being my friends and this place you've provided as a place to start!
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