I have done the same as you with my quits. on and off and on and off again and again. I was doing great with the support of my friends here, if I had not had them I think I would have given up trying to quit. I have set my new quit date Dec 1 I understand how you feel. As long as we do not loose site of the desire to quit we will keep trying until we succedd.
You can do it!!!!!

Oh, I hate that. I hate when you DO quit and nobody believes you. It hurts.

Well, I believe you. Stay strong. :)

Sally you are doing this and yes I do believe in you and I know you can do this this time. The friend of mine that quit with me here in town and is not on DS but we quit together, her snitty daughter who's 17 was like, I'll like believe it mom when it's been like six months....my son as you know lives mostly with his dad at this point and time and every time he comes home he checks my power-board, he questioned my mom much more in the beginning, he simply didn't believe I really was going to quit. As I took Lov's advice and blessed my quit at the Thanksgiving dinner table, I looked across the table and had the warmest smile from my son and he said, it's real and I really like not smelling the stink anymore .... Sally let those people doubt you but I don't, let us be your support right now, you took a challenge and it is your life and your life is worth so much, you will show them all come Christmas, girl you can do it, you are doing it! I send you love and support today tomorrow and the next!

PS I believe you!!!

Don't worry about the people who don't believe in you because we do. Ignore their ignorant remarks. We'll be your support system. Good luck!

I don't even know what it feels like to be quit for years. . .but, when I decided to quit this time (I'd only tried once before and it was last summer), my husband said, "You'll never quit." It really, really ticked me off.

You just have to ignore the naysayers, and focus on one thing and one thing only--your quit. Don't talk to them about it (unless they bring it up.) Let THEM notice one day that you've quit.

It's all about you, not them.

Try not to let them discourage you, from your quit, although i admit it is hard when people around you don't believe in you.We all believe in you.I have also quit many times and failed, but as i have been told, never give up quitting until you quit smoking for good.Good luck.

Well I believe you! If you can quit for 5 years then you surely can quit for good and I think this time you have the right mindset to WANT to stay quit. We're right here if that golldang nicodemon starts to get under your skin again. Pffffffffffffffffft to the naysayers, that's THEIR problem...and how many of them are smokers that won't even consider qutting? Kudos to you for getting back up on the no smoking wagon! Now kick back and enjoy the smoke free ride and just holler if you feel yourself starting to slip. There are many many arms here to catch you.

I decdided about November of last year that for my new years resoloution I would give up the fags and like your family and friends I got the "yeah whatever!!" comments,but I just I know in my heart of hearts that I meant what I was saying and that giving myself a date was what I needed to help me quit!!Its is now November of this year and Im still smoke free!!!So do it for yourself,noone else,its the best decision I ever made and I dont regret a single day!!I put on lots of weight,but im just begging to lose it with the help of slimmming world,but dont give up giving up xx Good luck xxx

Try not to listen to the naysayers. I have found that when someone didn't believe or couldn't understand how it is for us to quit, that those people are often not addicts of any kind. They just don't understand. It is hard and the fact that you are still trying is amazing. You have quit for five years! That is an awesome accomplishment! I know, for a fact, that you can do it again!

Actions speak louder than words. When they see that you are really not smoking, they will get it. In the meantime, this is another good reason to come here for support. We get it. We all want to be here supporting one another and getting support. It is also a reminder that at the end of the day, we are quitting for ourselves and not for anyone else. And we are ultimately accountable to ourselves and not to anyone else. Hang in there!!

Yeah, it's really hard. Once you've quit and started again, you're almost treated like a lost cause. You just have to believe in yourself and know you have friends here on D.S. I believe you can and will do it this time.

Sometimes people say things without thinking. I am sorry that happened, it is like being kicked when you are already down. Your decisions to do or not to do anything are all about you, this is YOUR life and you will live with your decisions. When people make comments like that to me, I just put them in a different category in my mind. I believe in karma, what comes around goes around. So the next time you are in that situation, simply think to yourself, "I hope people are more kind and understanding to you when you go through this". Then let it go. Believe me, it will no longer have the power to eat at you because you have instantly forgiven them and acknowledged that they fall into the category of "they just don't know". Blessings to you! Maggie

(Shell7 and I knows you
did quit. Please don't let them get to you. Keep strong and prove them wrong. Your stronger then they are.

They don't have a clue, Purpleiris. All they know is what they see. What they cannot understand is what you are experiencing. Ignore them. Slips and relapses are quite common in the world of addiction recovery. Slip happens, ya know.

When these folks don't believe you, keep in focus that you are quitting for YOU, not them. Just don't smoke and, like Beesley said, they will get it.

Keep up the great quit.
Shevie