So what go frickin outside, most people don't smoke inside of homes, I am surprised at the amount of people I've encountered through this site that do, even with kids!!! Freaks me out! I think it should be of the smokers integrity to take their bad air outside, you might put a couple lap blankets and a candle out in the carport and call it good. I may sound abrupt, but Jes' we all share the air, be thankful and if they have to "fix" let 'em fix! Meanwhile enjoy the smells of an awesome meal and pies and all the good things this Holiday provides.

I agree with Shell7..Tell them to go outside. You don't need to inhale their nicotine!!
You may become addicted! Tell them that.
I know you don't want to make them feel bad but they should understand since you quit. Lots of people go outside these days anyway.

I agree - tell your guests that since you have quit smoking that no one smokes in your house. Set up a smoking area for them and ask them to step outside. I'm sure that they will understand.

I suggest telling your brother and sister in law about the change before they show up at your house, if possible. That way, you get any awkwardness over in advance (preferably on the telephone), you avoid a potential scene between brother and sil and your son, and they get some advance notice so they know what to expect beforehand, and don't feel like you are springing it on them out the blue. If they are super-hard core, this is their chance to opt out. I'd say something like, "By the way, I want to let you know that I quit smoking about three months ago. Yeah, isn't that great? Anyway, we're no longer having any smoking inside the house at all. We have a little table and an ashtray outside, and folks can smoke out there, but there's no smoking anywhere inside anymore." I think I'd immediately segue into something positive about your quit like, "And you know, I feel so much better now . . . ." etcetc. Or make a light reference to the cold that gets the point across - "Well, I just wanted you to know so that you and Matilda can be sure and wear your longjohns - it's getting pretty cold out there." Happy Thanksgiving, Hank, and good for you for making it a smoke-free one.

...okay I know I sounded really harsh but for instance, my Dad is my Rock, he is my really good friend, my dad, my sounding board and used to be my smoking buddy. He is the one that calls everyday, "how many days now?" and is sooooo proud of my quit. He also does sooooo much for me, major boy stuff, beings I'm single, dump runs, leaf hauling and blowing and raking (I have 7 trees that lose leaves) mind you I help a bit and so does my son but it's mostly dad. I told him as his "bones get stiff in the cold and wet" that I'd light a presto log in the fireplace and he can have cigs by my fireplace during the holidays, ect. (like we used to do) he refuses!!! "No no I can go outside honey, that's okay......" and so I told him okay Dad if you say so, that is RESPECT, not just for me, but for my son, my mom and everyone else that will be here, I will step outside with him as I'm well in my quit, 86 days by TG, anyway you have every right to make your home a place you and your son & daughter in law want to be for the Holiday. I really hope you stand your ground, you will not only make a positive statement to yourself but to your whole family including the chainsmoking brother and sister inlaw. BTW, it's forcasted to be 25 degrees here! Best Wishes!

...so Beesley's approach certainly is the wiser, take it all, just stand your ground and keep your quit, I'm goin' to bed.

I like Beesley's idea. It's better to talk about it first and especially to put the emphasis on the positive side of things.
I don't think I'd want anyone smoking in my apartment now, even though when I smoked I never bothered to go outside. I still have ashtrays everywhere!
I haven't presumed to light up in anyone else's home in at least 20 years. Of course, I used to assume I could smoke anywhere, but times have changed.

Ewwwww, don't let them stink up your house. It takes so long to start smelling good. although I don't really know because I think I killed off my ability to smell and taste.
Not true...
Ran into someone I work with and spouted off "someone is smoking", and made a face. YES, I'm turning into one of THEM. The holier than thou. I have to shut up.
God bless your Dad. You are soooo lucky. Let him smoke outside. Most of the world does.
I've got 97 days today and I think I smell much better. I am sure you do too. Have a great holiday!

It is YOUR house, not theirs. You don't smoke in it, nor do they.

If smoking outside is uncomfortable for them, offer to help them to quit, or at least to point them to sources of help.

Second hand smoke is dangerous, especially to a newly quit smoker. New tissue growth is occurring in your respiratory system and needs to be protected. You would not allow them to spray insecticide in the kitchen while food was out on the counters, would you?

Let them know you understand their need for a fix (you were recently there yourself), but "no smoking in the house" in non-negotiable.

Keep up the great quit, Hank.
Shevie
Quit May, 2005

I didn't know that about the 'new tissue growth.' Thanks.

Beesley, that is awesome advise, and thank you to everyone who responded.
We will call them today and give them the "heads up". Better today then have a situation tomorrow!

It's just not the smell of the smoke, but the nasty smell of their breath and clothes.

I'm sensitive to these smells now that I quit. I know now how junior must feel!

Thanks!

You know most smokers won't smoke in a house where someone else quit, or a non smokers home. If they do I would say I rather you smoke outdoors. Thanks
If they go ahead and smoke, then go over jerk them up by the hair, and kick there sticken Butts in the ash, then push them outside, that is a joke.BUT IT WOULD WORK Happy Thanksgiving

I didn't know about the new "tissue growth" either, that is really interesting, I like that there's something "new" in this old broad, LOL...great info. Have a really great Thanksgiving Hank, glad you posted with us.

Hi!
Just an update on the situation. My wife called her sister last night and her sister and her husband decided to go over to her parents instead.

We will visit "mom" afterwards to have coffee, etc.

Situation was peaceful and they understood. Feel kinda sad for "mom and dad" though. They shouldn't get their house smoked up, but I'm not getting involved with that one!
Happy Thanksgiving everyone!

Farout!