
Single Parenting Support Group
Today being raised by a single parent is not uncommon. About three in ten children live in a single parent home. The most common type of single parent home is one with only a mother. However, single father homes are the fastest growing type of family situation; 60% growth in the last ten years alone.

mslissi
My son does not get to see his father on his court ordered visitations. His father moved over 80 miles aways and refuses to make the drive to see him. I was meeting him half way at one point and then it got to where he was showing up very late or not at all. The court order reads since he is within 100 mile of us then he is suppose to come to my home to pick up and drop off our son. I knew it was a drive and decided to meet him until he stopped showing up and not calling me to let me know. So now our son gets to see if Dad about 4 times a year. That is because his Nanna will get him and take him to his Dad's house.
He went to his dad's this past weekend and I am still dealing with the attitude that always comes back with my son. My son is 4 and thinks his father hung the moon. This trip my son comes back telling me about how his Dad's girlfriend keeps calling me a bad word. He screams at me and tries to hit and kick me when I tell him no. When he first gets home he will not speak to me. I have gotten to where I just keep doing whatever I am doing and when he realizes I am not going to talk to him either he speaks to me. He always asks me why I won't let him see his dad. I asked him why he thinks I won't let him see his dad. He told me "Cuz TiTi told me". I had a talk with him about how I have never told him he could not see his dad. He seemed to understand, but he is only 4. It is just a week of pure HELL when he visits his dad. I would think it is because he wants us back together, but he was only a few months old when we separated. Does anyone else have this issue? I want to say that I have never said anything negative about his father around him or to him. I don't agree with that because I was the poor child stuck in the middle of a nasty divorce and remember everything that I went through with all the mud slinging.
He went to his dad's this past weekend and I am still dealing with the attitude that always comes back with my son. My son is 4 and thinks his father hung the moon. This trip my son comes back telling me about how his Dad's girlfriend keeps calling me a bad word. He screams at me and tries to hit and kick me when I tell him no. When he first gets home he will not speak to me. I have gotten to where I just keep doing whatever I am doing and when he realizes I am not going to talk to him either he speaks to me. He always asks me why I won't let him see his dad. I asked him why he thinks I won't let him see his dad. He told me "Cuz TiTi told me". I had a talk with him about how I have never told him he could not see his dad. He seemed to understand, but he is only 4. It is just a week of pure HELL when he visits his dad. I would think it is because he wants us back together, but he was only a few months old when we separated. Does anyone else have this issue? I want to say that I have never said anything negative about his father around him or to him. I don't agree with that because I was the poor child stuck in the middle of a nasty divorce and remember everything that I went through with all the mud slinging.
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Does your son remember the times you drove out to meet his dad and he was not there? Maybe bring those up, and say that his dad must have forgotten. Say, he must be very forgetful.
As far as what the ho calls you, tell your X that this is totally unacceptable. what do you say to him when he uses bad language? We call it potty mouth. Just say, maybe she does not know that this is potty talk. Maybe her mother did not teach her that.
Don't worry too much about what your son learns over there about you. It must be confusing, but deep down he knows you are the one who loves and supports him. Give him some time when he comes back from a visit to make the transition. My kids don't even come in the house right away, they have to spend some time outside first, then they can make the mental transition being here rather than there. He has to work through all the confusion and hurt he is feeling.
Good luck and keep to the high road.