Single Parenting Support Group
Today being raised by a single parent is not uncommon. About three in ten children live in a single parent home. The most common type of single parent home is one with only a mother. However, single father homes are the fastest growing type of family situation; 60% growth in the last ten years alone.
I still have almost seven months to go before this actually becomes an issue... but I want to be prepared so things will go smoothly when the time comes.
My baby's father and I will not be getting back together... which is fine. But what I am wondering is how to share custody of a newborn? I don't know a whole lot about what is coming my way but shouldn't the baby be with the mother most of the time?
My ex is a chef and if you have ever worked in the restaurant business you know the Chef type. They work long hours and their job ALWAYS comes first. They have one of the highest divorce rates in the country. For a chef their is always a better job, or a better opportunity that comes along pushing their family farther and farther down the priority list. He says that he is going to change his life so he can be a real father... but I just don't believe it will really happen. (I hope I didn't offend any chefs out there)
I plan on sharing custody with X but I just don't know how to do that in the very beginning. Any advice would be a great help.
My baby's father and I will not be getting back together... which is fine. But what I am wondering is how to share custody of a newborn? I don't know a whole lot about what is coming my way but shouldn't the baby be with the mother most of the time?
My ex is a chef and if you have ever worked in the restaurant business you know the Chef type. They work long hours and their job ALWAYS comes first. They have one of the highest divorce rates in the country. For a chef their is always a better job, or a better opportunity that comes along pushing their family farther and farther down the priority list. He says that he is going to change his life so he can be a real father... but I just don't believe it will really happen. (I hope I didn't offend any chefs out there)
I plan on sharing custody with X but I just don't know how to do that in the very beginning. Any advice would be a great help.
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Wow, not sure what you mean by share custody, but with a new baby I would recommend a consistant schedule with visits from dad but I think the baby should stay overnight at the same house every night. Baby could still bond with dad if he visits but its so much work to just get a baby on a schedule. My ex and I split when my son was 2. He goes back and forth a lot with our shared custody. I don't think I could have done that if he was a newborn but I breastfed too so it would not have been possible! Anyway - good luck to you and that's great you are trying to be fair. If dad is willing to be involved and a positive role model that is great. There are a few books out there that suggest a few hours contact several days a week. You might want to check some out at the book store as some of them do address age and parental visitation.
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