Me and my son's father split during my pregnancy (or rather, he ended it when I became pregnant). We have had a turbulant relationship since, with involvemnt from solicitors. Contact and maintenance payments were infrequent and random on his behalf, and there was a 5 month period where I didn't hear a word from him. Now contact has been re-established and my son stays with his father 4 days a month as he lives so far away (he also moved when I became pregnant). Things are going well in terms of he sticks to contact, although the payments are still random. However my son now asks for 'daddy' during the month and so my ex agreed to phone calls with my son, yet still hasn't delivered!! If I have to speak to him about maintenance, he doesnt even ask how George is. My son has been going to speech therapy, he doesn't askhow that's going. I told him we need to arrange a time that he calls, a routine for my son-- He didn't even respond. I don't know if I am being out of order gettng angry because he does have contact now and my son comes back happy and obviously has a bond with his dad, but I feel like being a dad isn't just a 4-day-a-month arrangement, it is constant. And I don't know if in the long term it will do my son more harm thn good having a great time in those 4 days and nothing in between. Maybe I am being over-sensitive? I just can't imagine not wanting to find out how my child is if I only got to see him 4 days a month. Ok vent over! Opinions please?!
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