I do not know why I did this but I started looking up trying to find my daughters father last night. She has only asked about him once her whole life. We dated off and on for about a year and when I found out I was pregnant he decided he did not want to be a part of mine of her life. I filed for child support when she was 1, 4 and again 2 years ago. For some reason the attorney generals office could never track him down. I have saved several address I had found for him and his wife over the years. I kept them in case my daughter wanted to try and locate him. Like I mentioned before I am not really sure what prompted me to try and find him again, but I did. I actually found out that he passed away 3 years ago. I know for a fact it is him, it is his birthday, social and he has a very unique name that no one else has. I have never come across another person with his name. I have no idea what to do. Do I tell my daughter, she doesn't know him at all? Do I just keep it to myself? I did know him very well at one time. I can not believe that I did not find out sooner that he was gone. I did not sleep last night because I could not get this out of my head. I never thought I would have to tell a child that their father is no longer alive. I can not even express the emotions going through me right now. I am upset I did not try and contact him earlier so she could have possibly met him and his family. I am so afraid she will blame me for this. And some of it is my fault because I never forced the issue. His name is not on her birth certificate because of how things ended between us. His parents even acted unkind towards me when I was pregnant and giving them the opportunity to be a part of her life. They acted like I was after money. LOL That was the farthest thing from my mind. I just wanted my child to grow up knowing her family on her fathers side. Something I never got to experience. Now her father is dead and I really do not know what to do. Do I tell her or not?
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