I am so irriated right now. I have not heard from my X all last year, except for January because he asked to claim Justin on his taxes. After that nothing, not a call to check on his son and he sure didn't show up for his visitation. He didn't pay child support from August of 07 to Oct 08. I did get his tax refund and his stimulus check. He claims he paid me over $8000 in child support last year and doubts that I paid that much for our son last year. I got an email from him asking to claim Justin this year and I said no. He flipped out. He called me and left a not so nice message saying he doesn't understand why I need to claim Justin because I have my daughter. He is saying that I am all about the money. I am so not all about the money. If that were the case I would be living a completely different lifestyle. WIth him it is all about the money. In his message he flat states that if he doesn't claim Justin then he owes the IRS $3000 because he has to pay self employment taxes and blah blah blah. I don't mean to sound harsh but I don't care. I did not put him in that situation. He chose to work self employed and I am sure not the reason he got behind on his child support. But he is the type of person that is never wrong and always the victim. I am really tired of being his doormat. And truley if he would have been more active in Justin's life and actually a Dad to him I am sure that I would be willing to consider letting him claim Justin this year. But the fact is HE IS NOT A DAD to our son. I am so tired of being the one to help him out. He has a wife now that is her job. It is me that is there for our son when he is upset and hurt or doesn't understand things. NEVER my X. My son did see his dad at a wedding and my son asked him why he wasn't married to me and you know my X wasn't the one that answered the question. Someone else had to answer it because he was just ignoring my son. UGH I have to stop before my blood pressure gets too high. I am more angry with myself for allowing him to control my emotions right now. So I am sure I will get over the anger but just wanted and needed to vent! If anyone reads this Thanks for reading my frustations.
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