i have a huge problem. my boyfriend has 3 kids. mathias is 2 months, kayden is 2 and haylie is 3. kayden isn't biologically his. the mothers name is erin. she is a little slow and is suppose to get ssi. she is in trouble with child endagerment . she has no place to go with her kids, no job, no money. i agreed to let her move in on certain conditions. keep the house clean, do laundry, and take care of your kids. kayden and haylie get into everything and don't have any kind of routine and barely have enough food to fit their bodies. i am stuck between a rock and a hard place because i live in a 2 bedroom apartment. how am i suppose to make sure my house doesn't get destroyed when i am at work or school. i also have a 10 month old with special needs. he isn't retarded but he was born 3 months early. while erin was living with her last friend she let the kids trash the house while she was asleep, she let the kids put makeup, and kool aid on the couch and floor, she let the kids into the refridgerator and pour out all the milk and everything. she let haylie punish kayden, she pawned off her kids on a 13 year old and punished the 13 year old when the 13 year old punished her kids. basically i don't know what to do. i don't know how to help her straighten her life out and be a good mom/person. i have enough problems of my own, and letting her into my home would just cause more chaos. raising 4 kids is not what i am about to do. i want erin to be able to live on her own, and be able to take care of her kids. i don't have the time nor the energy to teach her how to be an adult. she is probably going to get the kids taken away from her permanently on the 11th, but they can't come here. we have no one to watch her kids while we are at work/school. my boyfriend and i work thirds to begin with, plus im taking college courses. i need sleep sometime. i want to help her so badly but i can't tell her how to live. i can't be her mother too. she says that she want to turn her life around. she knows she fucked up, but she says she needs help. how am i suppose to do this?
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