im 28 weeks pregnat and not wit baby daddy. he doesnt live near me but we still get along ok, but i know what you mean.
i hate that i been going thru all this alone while he's free to do whatever he wants, partyin, sleeping wit other girls and stuff like that. im really worried he'll get someone else pregnant too. i know in the future we are both probably gonna have other kids but it would be so much harder if he got someone else pregnant while im still pregnant.
anyways totally understand where you're coming from
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I feel you. But that freedom is not as good as the pure love and joy you will get from your baby. That partying will get old and empty. You have years of love and surprises and miracles ahead of you.

OMG I feel the same way! I just left my babys dad about a month ago b/c he was a shitty person. If anyone ever dated him after me I feel so bad for them. He is a people destroyer. He broke me down and the girl before me. He is a horrible person!

I love my daughter (she is due Dec 10) but its not fair that he gets to live fucking carefree with no responsibility. He liked the idea of having a baby until he realized they take time and money and effort. Now that I am gone he "tries" to get me to come back (he is in WA) but he doesn't do the things he needs to get me back like anger management and counseling.

My husband kicked me and the kids out 6 months ago for a 21 year old whore!!! He is 36! She's an alcoholic, pill popping, pothead!! She wasn't good to the kids either! Oh yes he moved her in while we still lived there! Now he comes and goes as he pleases! Weeks will go by without even a phone call. Now i won't even let him see the kids! It's too hard on them the inconsistensies! I hate him and her! Let them have their freedom! Screw them to hell!!!

I sympathise, my son's got 4 siblings that he probably will never know as siblings because the sperm donor (yep that's the only part he showed up for) dosn't seem to know what causes these kids he dosn't want and dosn't support. i feel ya, but ya know celebrating the time with your son will help. look at how much you get to enjoy (i know it's not easy believe me!) but really it's so great to see that first smile, the little kisses and hugs that are yours...he'll miss all that and it's so completely his loss. i do suggest seeing if you can get a sitter like once a month tho and get out to hang with other adults where you are known as somebody other than mommy, that helps a little too

You should feel lucky that you are not the one leading a shallow and empty existance. Yes they have freedom but it is a small conselation for a life without that hug fro your child or the pride you get when they do something particularly good. Try not to see the bars at the windows but the beauty in your childs eys and how you to them are god. The daddies miss all of that. They are no more than a spare part. See the positive in your lives and see how rubbish freedom really is, then think would you really want it???

Trust me, Ladies...these men will the theirs! When they decide they are ready for a relationship with their child (and they WILL), it will be too late. The kids won't want anything to do with them. That's how it always goes...

I agree with the positive aspect. I have been through the bitterness stages as well. It will pass. Focus all your energies on your child and your life. Only let the positives in and reject the negatives. Best wishes.

piss on the father of my babies no child support paying lazy no good dead beat dad yea it helps thanks kind of feels good

Thats the price of being a parent. You must sacrifice ALOT and put them in front of you. Don't have this anger cause in the end you'll drive yourself mental. So what that he's free, you have your baby. Don't think about your"freedom" cause if you end up stuck on that then you may turn into one of those "part-time" moms who cracked down and went back to acting as if they never had kids and partying. This is the responsibility I'm sure you were aware when you got knocked up so instead of hating, being jealous or regret or whatever, do things to improve your life or self.

Girl just let it out that's what we are here for. My son is a dead beat dad as well. Him and his wife has a MS page as well and it's pics up there of them and the son's they have together and no mention of my son. But I agree with another post the joy your son brings you outweighs the dead beat dad BS. Stay strong!!

EEK! Vent away, but realize you're better than him-don't be angry at him, feel sorry for him.

**What goes around comes around**
Some might think its just an old saying ( I call it karma) but I learned on my own skin and I've seen it happen to others. Trust me he will pay one way or the other, sooner or later. You just take care of yourself and your child. I was 23 when I had my first child and now shes 8. Now I'm 31 and when I admit to it nobody believes me. People say I look 20. If you take good care of yourself now and stop stressing your ex you'll be fine. Stress kills and makes people look ugly.Wrinkles and gray hair.
It brings me so much joy raising my kids and watching them mature. You are still young and you will still get your time to just chill.

He will have regrets one day. You will not. What you have is priceless. I share custody w/ my ex. There are times I wish I could pay him to go away. There are times I'm jealous that I can't have him more then 50% of the time. I'm older then you, but the partying wears off but the love for and the love of your child never will. Vent, vent, vent - it sure helps me. But you are the lucky one. Not him.

thank you all=)