Single Parenting Support Group
Today being raised by a single parent is not uncommon. About three in ten children live in a single parent home. The most common type of single parent home is one with only a mother. However, single father homes are the fastest growing type of family situation; 60% growth in the last ten years alone.
I am SO MAD right now. I wonder if anyone can relate.
I have been so nice about the divorce/child custody issues with X. we will be officially divorced in December.
Apparently he's started seeing someone else, and I've been quiet.
He pays me $100 less than supposed to per month (and he's asked me not to get foodstamps, even tho I qualify), and I've been quiet.
He makes the 13 year old do his own and his little brother's laundry, and I've been quiet.
He sleeps whenever the boys (we have 2 ) are there, and I've been quiet.
But today I picked up the boys after his visitation, and here is what happened.
He picked them up at 11am, then went to bed. His apparent g/f (he just told the boys she is his friend) went to bed with him around noon.
She left her infant sleeping on the couch and her under 2 year old running around. So my 13 year old had to watch them and his 7 year old brother. And they didn't explain anything to him.
I called X at 3pm to pick them up, and he didn't answer phone, but he left the bedroom long enough to tell the boys I was coming.
WTH???
So I wrote him a long email saying that this isn't acceptable, that he needs to explain to them about that woman, and not use my kids as babysitters, even though he does work 3rd shift!!!
Should I tell him he can't get the boys on Sundays if he is going to act like this?
He picks them up from school almost every day and keeps them until 4pm when I get off work.
Any advice??
I have been so nice about the divorce/child custody issues with X. we will be officially divorced in December.
Apparently he's started seeing someone else, and I've been quiet.
He pays me $100 less than supposed to per month (and he's asked me not to get foodstamps, even tho I qualify), and I've been quiet.
He makes the 13 year old do his own and his little brother's laundry, and I've been quiet.
He sleeps whenever the boys (we have 2 ) are there, and I've been quiet.
But today I picked up the boys after his visitation, and here is what happened.
He picked them up at 11am, then went to bed. His apparent g/f (he just told the boys she is his friend) went to bed with him around noon.
She left her infant sleeping on the couch and her under 2 year old running around. So my 13 year old had to watch them and his 7 year old brother. And they didn't explain anything to him.
I called X at 3pm to pick them up, and he didn't answer phone, but he left the bedroom long enough to tell the boys I was coming.
WTH???
So I wrote him a long email saying that this isn't acceptable, that he needs to explain to them about that woman, and not use my kids as babysitters, even though he does work 3rd shift!!!
Should I tell him he can't get the boys on Sundays if he is going to act like this?
He picks them up from school almost every day and keeps them until 4pm when I get off work.
Any advice??
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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It is unfair for the father to do that, but you cannot police him with what he does on his time with the kids. You can be as mad as you want, and there's nothing you can do about it, EXCEPT document this to no end, and make it an issue with the friend of the court. Two things. You're children are being unsupervised, the father COULD sleep when his kids aren't there. And the "friend" why on earth can't she watch her own children? That could also be an issue to be brought up with the FOC. Don't stand for it. BUT, you CANNOT keep the kids from seeing their father, and/or the father from getting his children, also considering he keeps the kids until you get off work. There should be a better parenting schedule set up, unless you are getting majority of child custody and he only has visitation.